As a young girl I wondered what the sex would feel like and if it would hurt the first time. I had been told repeatedly that sex was something that should be saved for the right man, something that should not be done casually.
The better sex feels, the more likely a man will be to participate in it.
Sex is one of the most important parts of a relationship. People who have sex with their partners are happier, healthier and more satisfied with their lives.
But having sex isn’t always easy. A recent study found that one in three women are dissatisfied with the frequency of their sex life, and one in five men say they were too tired for sex at least once a month.
The better sex feels, the more likely a man will be to participate in it. This is because sexual satisfaction is linked to testosterone levels in men — which makes sense when you consider that testosterone is known as the “sex hormone” because it’s responsible for male secondary sexual characteristics like facial hair, muscle mass and low body fat percentage.
Men who are sexually satisfied also have higher levels of oxytocin — which makes them feel more connected to their partners — than men who aren’t as satisfied with their sex lives.
Sex is about more than the physical for men, too.
Sex is about more than the physical for men, too.
Sex is about more than the physical for men, too.
It’s a fact that many women have long known: Men and sex are not the same thing. In fact, sex has little to do with male pleasure and everything to do with male dominance. For centuries, women have been taught that their bodies are dangerous places — and that they must protect themselves at all costs from being sexually assaulted or even raped. But what happens when we begin to understand that men need protection as well?
Men need protection because they are vulnerable to sexual violence as well — even if they don’t realize it yet. We tend to think of rape as something that happens only to women and girls, but one out of every five children who has been sexually abused is male. And while most people think of sexual violence as an act committed against women by men, the sad truth is that many men are also victims of rape themselves; they just aren’t counted in those statistics because many men don’t report their own experiences because they feel ashamed or believe that it’s somehow their fault.
This isn’t just a problem for boys and men; it’s also a problem for girls and.
We’ve got our own version of blue balls.
We’ve got our own version of blue balls.
Women, like men, can experience sexual frustration and pain. But unlike men, women don’t really have a way to relieve themselves.
That’s because the clitoris — the only organ in the human body whose sole purpose is pleasure — is often left out of the equation when it comes to sex education. As a result, many women experience a lot of frustration during sex, according to Laura Berman, Ph.D., director of the Berman Center in Chicago and author of “For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality.”
“Women need to feel like they’re understood,” she says. “A lot of us have been told that we should be grateful for every sexual experience because it’s better than nothing at all.”
Sex is a powerful drug. It can make you feel great, but it can also leave you feeling unsatisfied, frustrated and even resentful if you don’t get your fix. It’s not just physical either: it can have a psychological impact as well.
We’ve all heard of “blue balls,” which is what happens when a man doesn’t ejaculate for a long time and the pressure builds up in his testicles. But there’s another type of sexual frustration that isn’t talked about so much: “blue vulva.”
A recent study found that some women experience similar feelings to blue balls after sex — or lack thereof — because their clitoris becomes swollen due to engorgement with blood during arousal. The condition is called “clitoral priapism” and it’s caused by persistent sexual arousal. It results in swelling, which can be painful or even lead to bruises if left untreated or ignored for too long.
The study also found that women who masturbated regularly were less likely to experience clitoral priapism than those who didn’t (phew), so perhaps regular orgasms will help alleviate the issue in future?
We worry about how we look naked too.
We worry about how we look naked too.
A new study found that women who were afraid of what their partner would think of their body were less likely to have sex, while men were more likely to have sex with a partner if they thought she was attractive.
The study — published in the Journal of Sex Research — was conducted by researchers at Northwestern University, who surveyed 692 heterosexual men and women about their sexual experiences, body image concerns and feelings on attractiveness.
They found that men were more likely than women to think their partner was attractive, regardless of whether or not they actually agreed with that assessment. Men also had fewer concerns about weight and appearance than women did.
Women, on the other hand, had more negative feelings about themselves than men did. The research suggests that these feelings of inadequacy can affect sexual activity: Women who felt insecure about their bodies were less likely to want to engage in sexual activity with their partners. (Insecure guys didn’t seem to care as much.)
Sometimes, it’s not about sex at all.
Sometimes, it’s not about sex at all.
The first time I ever felt sexually attracted to a man was in my early 20s. I went on a date with someone and he kissed me, and then we went back to his place and did the deed. That was it.
I didn’t feel much of anything. And then he asked me out again and I agreed because I wasn’t sure what else to do.
The second time we went out together happened about two weeks later, but this time we had dinner followed by drinks at a bar around the corner from where he lived. We were sitting next to each other on the couch, talking about random stuff — politics, our favorite movies — when he turned toward me and kissed me again.
This time, it was different than before: My body responded immediately with a rush of heat that moved through my chest and down into my belly, where it pooled into something hot and heavy before traveling back up into my chest again. It was like being hit by lightning — stunning and scary but also exhilarating and exciting in equal measure.
That night, when we got back to his place after dinner.
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